Okay, so I live on a college campus - and I am a college student - and I am 20 years old - and I would say I'm still in those years when (and this may be a bit of a delicate subject, so I apologize in advance if it makes you uncomfortable) sex seems to always pretty much dominate the mind. So, let's talk chastity...
What is it?
Chastity is a form of the cardinal virtue of temperance. Let's break that up a bit. What is a virtue? A virtue is a state of being, i.e. just because one is occasionally chaste does not mean that one is a chaste person. A virtue is something that must be developed over time. It's not something that one just immediately has. It must be something that we work on (there's more to it than that, but I think that'll suffice for now). Okay, there are 2 kinds of virtues: the cardinal virtues and the theological virtues. The Cardinal Virtues are Prudence, Temperance, Justice, and Fortitude. The Theological Virtues are Faith, Hope, and Caritas (which is usually translated charity or love, but I wanted the reader to remember something about Caritas ... it's a higher form of "love" than anything we can imagine or anything we can naturally produce within ourselves). The Cardinal Virtues are those four virtues which have, since time immemorial, been recognized as virtues by all of the world (until the present day, when most of them have been lost). Furthermore, they are virtues that, for the most part, can be found among all people, not just Christians - not just those with access to the ordinary means of divine grace. I'll be dealing with all of these in turn, but right now I'm just trying to get some terms defined. The Theological Virtues are those virtues which are gifts from Almighty God given to us in Baptism and strengthened (in Latin, the verb used is confirmare) in Confirmation. Furthermore, they are gifts which God continually renews in us. I'll deal more with the theological virtues much later (after I finish the Cardinal Virtues).
This will be my post dealing with the virtue of temperance, although I will discuss it under its form of chastity. It is important to note, though, that most of this applies also to temperance in food (the opposite of gluttony). Now what is temperance specifically? Temperance is that virtue portrayed by the phrase, "All things in moderation." That is, one uses just enough of a good (by which I mean something that is literally good - food, sex, money, etc.) in the way in which it is meant to be used - no more, no less.
So let us look at chastity in its context as a form of temperance. The good with which chastity specifically deals is that of sex. Sex is a good. I'd really hate for you to walk away from your computer with the idea that Christians think sex is bad because - guess what - it's not. Because of this, chastity is that form temperance where one has just enough sex in the way in which it is intended - no more, no less.
Pretty interesting, right? I'm not done, either.
That's what chastity is but how can it be practiced. Well, first off, chastity means never looking at someone as if they are an object purely for your sexual gratification. PEOPLE ARE NOT MEANS TO AN END ... THEY ARE ENDS IN AND OF THEMSELVES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! When God made man, He made him in His own image. We are icons of Almighty God. At the 2nd Council of Nicea, the Church made the statement that what is done to and for icons and images are done to and for those whom the icons and images represent. What we do to human beings (images of Almighty God), we do ultimately to God. To turn a human being into someone (or maybe something would be the word) whose only purpose in life is to fulfill your sexual desires is a serious violation of their human dignity and a serious violation of the virtue of chastity. Serious. That's why Jesus said that if you so much as look at a woman, you commit adultery with her in your heart. It is serious. Included among this are sins of rape, pornography, and viewing anyone with unchaste intentions.
One way to avoid this terrible sin against the human person, is to serve them ... not to receive something from them ... just to serve them. Treat them as they really are: an image of Almighty God. Treat them with the respect and dignity due them as human beings.
Another way that chastity is abused is in perversions of the sexual act which would include all intercourse between anyone other than 1 human male and 1 human female and it would also include all unnatural intercourse between them. This means solo sexual acts, homosexual acts, bestial acts, and even some heterosexual acts. I don't want to get into too much detail ... mainly because I'm not a priest. If you have questions about whether or not you're living chastely, by all means ... see a priest.
Ways that this can be avoided are quite obvious because these acts must be more premeditated in general. The way to avoid doing them is to avoid doing them. That is don't participate in these acts and do not give in to temptation. BELIEVE ME: I know how hard it is. I know it's a struggle. And I know that we fail: that's what the Sacrament of Confession is for. Use it.
Chastity may also be abused in what is given what is in my opinion a misnomer: pre-marital sex. The reason I find this to be a misnomer is because it is not only before marriage that one can have pre-marital sex. I would prefer to refer to it as extra-marital sex (meaning sex outside of the marriage bonds). Beyond that point, though, the reason this is wrong is because of the meaning and ends of sex. Sex has two ends: the procreative and the unitive, the latter of which is subordinated to the procreative. Quite naturally, sex results in children. That is the natural result of sex. This is why it is a mortal sin to use contraception. This goes along with that "in the right way" part of the definition of temperance. If you use contraception, you have gotten rid of the most important reason for the existence of sex in the first place. If you use contraception, I would (a) stop using it immediately and (b) go to confession ASAP. Because sex has a procreative intent, the couple must be open to the possibility of children. Because children need both a mother and a father - because they need both a protector and provider, and an educator (which, by the way, is not the servile role everyone seems to think it is...) - they need a family. Therefore, the couple must be married so that they can be open to this idea. Furthermore, sex is a sign of a very deep reality: it is a sign stating that you are giving yourself entirely ... 100% ... to your partner. That is also what marriage is. Sex is the sign of marriage. If one is not married and one has sex, then one has told one's partner a lie. Granted, it is a mutual lie, but it is still a lie. Therefore, all sex outside the bonds of marriage is a violation of the virtue of chastity.
There ... that is my take on what I know is a very touchy issue.
Mariae et Jesu Semper Servus Sum,
Joe
Dalmatics
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Our friend John Sonnen at Orbis Catholicus has posted a nice photo of one of
the purple dalmatics made for the pontificate of Benedict XVI. These are
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